Sunday, October 07, 2007

june bug


I honestly did not know that I could love someone this much.

When I held her that first day I was knocked off my feet by the overwhelming wave of unconditional love. I know without a doubt that I would throw myself in front of running bulls to save her and her brother.


June Bug is a smart, confident, loving and thoughtful seven and a half year old. Things Auntie Nora is still working on at forty-six and a half.


I can't wait to see what the future brings for my lovely niece.


It's hard to remember what our family was like before she was born. I know it was not nearly as fun!

a six pack

or my pallbearers

I have six godchildren. They range in age from 31 to 7.

Mike is the oldest and a cousin. I was 15 when my dear Uncle Con and Aunt Karen asked me to be his godmother. I felt very grown up and responsible when I stood at the baptismal font and promised to be responsible for this spiritual growth. I also took the gift giving part very seriously. The year of the puppy (I asked his parents first) was a hit. One of my favorite memories is taking Mike and one of his buddies to a Purdue basketball game. My college boyfriend Greg and I had a blast with the two sixth graders – who acted exactly like sixth grade boys are supposed to, giggling, goofy, soda spilling nerds. That little boy wound up attending Purdue for both his undergrad and graduate degrees. He is now living on the East coast and working for ESPN.

Caitlin is the next oldest. Her mom is an old friend from grade school. She was in grade school when she was baptized, so I didn’t get to hold her during the ceremony. She’s finished one year of college and is taking some time off to figure out what direction she’d like to take next.

Ben is number three. His mom and I have been inseparable since first grade (40 years for those keeping score). Ben gave me the only Christmas present that has ever made me burst in to tears. A framed copy of a school assignment.

“A Very Special Person”
The person who I admire is my godmother. Her name is Nora. I admire her because she’s nice. She collects Pez and gives us Pez candy a lot, and she’s funny. My mom knew her ever since she was a girl, and on Christmas she dresses up like Santa Claus.
Ben (August 25, 1997)

Ben is now a freshman at Hanover College, on the football team and a great student.


Sweet Mallory is Caitlin’s sister. Mallory is a middle school student. She’s creative, sensitive, independent and well traveled. She knitted me my favorite scarf.

Thomas is little brother to Caitlin and Mallory. He’s a hockey playing, sports loving grade schooler. He was a very rambunctious little boy. One time his mom called me and asked me to pick Thomas up from pre-school. Cassie was so angry with him that she thought it was better that I fetch him. In the past when I’d picked him up I’d have to sign in and show my identification. This time the teacher was waiting outside with him and she pushed him toward me the when I opened the car door. Thomas had bitten a classmate and not for the first time. Once I got him buckled in and asked him what happened.
“You know how it is when you’re tired, Aunt Nora. I just lost my head.”
Out of the mouths of 4 year olds.

My dear sweet niece Molly is number six. You can read more about her tomorrow.

Saturday, October 06, 2007

these five rooms

living room, dining room, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom--and the five just like them on the other side of the house, are now mine -- today was closing day.

(rooms one and two)


It was stressful and strange and last minute.
I didn't know until an hour before how much money I needed to bring with me. Luckily I had that much-- with a few dollars left over

The first thing I signed said "Nora Spitznogle, unmarried woman"
Was that necessary, really?




My landlords were incredibly generous and kind -- and took me out for a beer afterward.



Chez Pez


The whole thing drained me -- I lost my voice and am exhausted.
I went to a swanky party and was too tired to stay.



I couldn't resist a self-timed photograph pointing to MY house.
I'm off to curl up in the fetal position under my covers.
In MY bedroom!

Thursday, October 04, 2007

this young man


is four and three-fourths.

He's persuasive, sensitive, smart as a whip, funny and terribly handsome.

His favorite things are John Deere tractors, Grandpa, swimming and teasing his big sister.

Who knew that the things I found so annoying in a little brother would be so lovable in a nephew?



I am thrilled to be Auntie to this sweet boy.

Wednesday, October 03, 2007

work, work, work

I'm in my third year of working at Second Helpings.

Working somewhere for three years is not a big milestone for me. I worked at the same nursing home every summer and school breaks for six years. I worked for Houlihan's for eight years and the coffeehouse for over seven. I've worked part time at the Red Key for five and off and on at Marigold for sixteen. If anything, I have a problem letting go.

The job of director of operations at Second Helpings feels like it was made for me. Usually it doesn't feel like work. And some days it feels overwhelming, but mostly it feels just right. I'd never pictured myself working for a not-for-profit agency, or having any kind of office-y job.

This is the first job where I've had my own office. Or desk, chair or telephone extension -- or telephone for that matter. In the restaurant world I always shared an office. When I was a general manager we had a whole desk, but often my work space was crafted from milk crates and broken bar stools.

This is also my first job with any kind of an office culture. Of course the restaurant business has its share of work place drama, but it usually involved a hostess thinking a bus boy was mean or hot -- either way, tears were usually involved.

After years at the coffeehouse I was used to hitting the day running. When I started at Second Helpings I learned about office pleasantries and politics. Co-workers would be standing outside my office discussing manicures and Survivor and my head would be ready to explode thinking -- LIVES TO SAVE! PEOPLE TO FEED! CHOP CHOP CHOP!
I soon learned that we were feeding people and saving lives, but you can take time to stop and smell the nail polish.

I also learned what you can and cannot talk about at work.

Last night's American Idol - okay
The punk band you saw at midnight - not so much

The bottle of wine you and your husband shared at dinner - okay
The front porch beers you shared with a neighbor - umm, no.

The anniversary of Princess Diana's death - okay
The anniversary of Joey Ramone's - maybe, but you'll spend a lot of time explaining who Joey is.

Today was a typical day for me and as they all do, it flew by.

I started the morning by coming to work early to make sure everything was okay. Dad and Mr. Ternet were among the 25 volunteers today and I waved at them on the way out the door.

I attended a committee meeting downtown. From there I went straight to BigMediaCo and gave a talk about Second Helpings. I was pretty nervous (the audience included the publisher of BigSlickCityMagazine and his staff and the director of BigRadioCo and his staff). The talk went well and they laughed and threw money (okay, maybe not the money part, hopefully that will come later).

I drove back to Second Helpings, resisting the grey day temptation to duck in to the coffeehouse on the Circle. Second Helpings was bursting at the seams with big group of high school students volunteering.

I checked email, returned phone messages, rebooted the server and signed checks. I gave a tour to a potential funder and had lunch with Dad --and fifty other people. The students prepare lunch for the volunteers, staff and students each day. That is a great perk -- and why I've gained twenty pounds in the time I've been here.

The afternoon consisted of updating employee files, plunging a toilet, plowing through the stacks of stuff on my desk and taking a phone call from a staff member that may or may not be returning to jail tomorrow (don't ask) and talking to outside council about another employee issue (don't ask again).

Even days like today when I feel like I'm spinning by wheels, I have to look back and realize that we fed 2900 people, educated eleven unemployed adults, rescued 4000 pounds of food and provided a volunteer experience for twenty-five teenagers.

And that was just today.
I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings.

Tuesday, October 02, 2007

one, two buckle my shoe

(new Chuck Taylor's Melody Inn
Clash Tribute show)

I've been told that I "think well on my feet," that I can "stand on my own two feet."

I've always relied pretty heavily on my feet -- maybe a little more than my brain.

(pink Converse, Lockerbie Pub
Amy Lashley's going away show)

Walking to kindergarten when we lived "in town", skipping up the steps to the public library, running to the school bus on the farm, walking down rows and rows of soybeans with gloves and a hoe, working as a nurse's aid through high-school and college, standing in the corner of dark clubs listening to music, rollerblading through Philadelphia, wandering the streets of New York City, standing in front of an espresso machine, waitressing, making countless trips from my desk to the production kitchen and dock, running to meetings and chasing my niece and nephew these feet have done me well.

(Born sandals, Upper Room
Middletown show)


They aren't particularly pretty, but not bad either. Average size, right number of toes and one big scar. I'm not especially nice to them -- some days I'll spend 12 hours on my feet. I have not soaked them since the time AVS made me a foot bath from a pickle bucket and Epsom salts and I've never had a pedicure.

I am the queen of sensible shoes --dansko, Born, Seibel, Frye boots and Converse tennis shoes. I'm thrilled to see the rounded toe coming back in to style. Not that I have any pointy toe shoes anyway.



I also seem to take an extraordinary number of photographs of my feet. Most of them are born from clumsiness. I'll be talking with my hands and accidentally snap a photo. Lately I've been taking pictures of my feet to test the light and make sure I have every thing right with the camera before I stick it in a musicians face.



(dansko Mary Jane's, Melody Inn
D**g St**nh*pe show)

I took the one above on purpose. I was reviewing a Showtime comedian that was performing in a music club last week. I was tucked in to a little entry way that is just a few feet from the stage. The show was hosted by an old boyfriend. We dated when I was 21 and were a cute little punk-rock couple. He was my first real boyfriend. He played guitar in a popular punk band and drove an old motorcycle. Boy did he make my parents nervous, as they should have been.

Anyway, fast forward 25 years and I'm standing next to him in a tiny space between the door and the stage. The comedian was R-17 rated (at least in my prudish mind) and the crowd consisted of 75 guys and a handful of women. It is uncomfortable hearing raunchy jokes standing next to someone that you had, um, yeah, um, lets say "taken a nap" with.

The comedian launched in to a bit about the first person he'd ever tried to take a nap with -- her name was Nora. This caused about a dozen guys to whoop and point to me (and, no I had not taken a nap with any of them). The comedian took this as encouragement to go on with this Nora diatribe. The pointing continued. The comedian looked at me and started on a rant about preteen boys and middle aged women, while pointing at me. I was horrified and started to feel woozy. I looked down at my feet and snapped the photograph. That caused the audience to laugh and I fled.


Here is a much happier foot photograph:


(pink Converse, my backyard)

[I don't know why the spacing got all strange, but trying to fix it is causing me to stamp my feet.]

Monday, October 01, 2007

october smackdown

Writers write, right?

I've been struggling with this blog and what to do with it.
Don't get me wrong -- I love blogging and the people that I've met and hope to meet.
I feel like I have this pretend life with all of these amazing smart talented friends.

There is tons of stuff I'd like to write about, but I'm mindful of my family, friends and job(s).
I keep making noises about wanting to write, but I'm not even sure what that means.
I cranked out a 2000 word column yesterday for the Gazette and I'm working on several music pieces for NUVO, but somehow don't feel like a writer.

I've decided to give myself a little homework assignment and you all are going to have to suffer through it.

I'm going to try to write a post everyday. And the theme of October is numbers.
I'm not a numbers person at all. Don't like 'um, avoid 'um at all costs.

Today's number is ONE, ONE theme with ONE goal...trying not to drive you all away.
Won't this be fun?